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tkd2010 Bracelet King	6 months, 4 weeks ago by tkd2010 just go ahead and rant. even if no one reads it, it’ll make you feel better lol okayy so basically there’s this boy who likes me and at first i just liked him as a friend and wasn’t interested. he made a few moves but i kept telling him i wasn’t interested and we continued to stay friends. he even asked me to dance and my dumb self turned him down. well i started catching feelings at the end of the school year but never told him bc our friendship was going nice. well at the very beginning of summer one of our other friends texted me and said “get with him” and i was like “why” and he said “don’t tell anyone but he likes you” (i had already known bc one of our otherr friends told me 😭) well i was like “oh” and he was like “do you like him” and i said “he’s cool and all and a great friend but idrk” and he was like “nah you like him” so he texted him and told him i liked him. and he was like “i just told him you liked him and he said he rlly likes you but isn’t looking for a relationship rn” and i was lowk crushed. likee at least he likes me ig and i understand but i never said i wanted a relationship either. idk i want to be more than friends but i’m not sure i want a relationship rn. and i tried to add him on snap to explain (i didn’t have him added bc when i wasn’t interested in him i tried not to get too close so he wouldn’t get the wrong idea) but ig i scared him off (well our friend scared him off bc i never said i wanted a relationship) bc it’s been 5 weeks and we haven’t had any contact whatsoever. your turn 🙌🏼
kpn Bracelet King	6 months, 4 weeks ago by kpn wow that's rough 😬 maybe really do try just investing in a relationship right now that isn't romantic. platonic love isn't less important or less powerful than romantic, it's just as important if not more. keep being nice to him and talking to him and just see where God takes your relationship too. this sounds like a really stable and healthy relationship, so don't let it go (all my opinion i am def not a professional) my rant: my mom thinks i'm dating my best friend! i really love her platonically and we are not dating. i knew my mom didn't love her bc we have a different kind of friendship than i have with my other friends, so i can see how my mom may have thought it was romantic but i'm still furious that she asked about it. she's always been pretty subtly homophobic so she has no place to act like that's a casual conversation? she just asked what it's like being friends with her, and if she's maybe more than a friend. it was literally all i could do not to just get up and walk away and start screaming, honestly. now it's so awkward when i talk about friend around my mom or when i ask if she can come over because i know my mom thinks we're a ✨thing✨ now, and it's so annoying. i had a pretty good idea that my mom thought there was something going on but i didn't care because it wasn't true and i didn't think she'd mention it, but she did. now i've been really frustrated with her for a few days and i can't explain why to her. meanwhile, i think i am somehow platonically attracted to friend? idek how to explain it but she's my favorite person in the world, i get so excited to talk to her and see her, i think about her a lot, and i'd totally want to live a life with her. i don't think that's necessarily romantic, though. we're both queer, so it's not an unrealistic possibility, but i don't really want it to be romantic because she's my best friend. however, she does have a guy friend she talks to a lot who she said she wondered if she liked ONCE, but a couple months later she found out he liked her but he doesn't know she knows. every time he comes up i just get a little anxious, i guess? i feel terrible about it and i know it's so selfish but it almost makes me feel less important? that's not a great description of it at all but i feel like at some point, she won't need me but i really need her. i'm scared that he'll be such a good person that she just forgets me and that scares me a lot. it's selfish and stupid but it's always my first emotional response. i haven't met him, but she tells me a lot about him. he's very important to her too and she talks to him about mental health and stuff, so i feel bad almost hating him. he's supporting her so well and i think he's helped her a lot, and i'm so glad for that. she deserves a healthy relationship with someone who loves and listens to her and tells her to be kind to herself. i just want to be able to be that person for her too, but i sort of feel like i'll never be good enough for that. our relationship just makes me so indescribably happy and i'm terrified to ruin it or have anything else affect it. so yeah, help 😄
tkd2010 Bracelet King	6 months, 4 weeks ago by tkd2010 @kpn woah. that’s a lot. i’m so sorry you’re going thru this. first off- you don’t have to feel bad for being jealous of him. (but don’t let your jealousy take over or show that you’re jealous bc that’ll more than likely start problems) buttt it might make you feel better if you try to be more positive abt the situation. you seem like you really love and care for her, and he does as well! and you what the best for her and for her to be happy. i’m sure it’s super hard and painful but DO NOT FEEL UNIMPORTANT! you seem like an amazing friend and she’s lucky to have someone that’s cares so much! second- abt your mom. again, i’m so sorry. i don’t have a good relationship with my mom either and it’s so hard. i would just give it some time until you can maybe get the right time to talk to her and tell her abt the situation and how her accusations make you feel. i wish you the best and my dms are always open <3
tkd2010 Bracelet King	6 months, 4 weeks ago by tkd2010 @kpn yeah i just want my friend back but idk how. we’ve had a bit of a falling out a few months ago. he was just kinda cold and short towards me for a while. i mean we would talk but not near as much and there was definite tension. but we got in great terms again. i’m just not sure if i should try to make my way back into his life or let it be. i just miss him sm and i care so deeply for him

kpn Bracelet King	6 months, 4 weeks ago by kpn thank you (: the worst part is that i do have a pretty good relationship with my mom so this was such a huge thing to me that i feel like it both has and will continue to affect our relationship ): i'm sorry you don't have a good relationship with your mom, i'll pray about that and i'm always open to chat too if you need. as for the friend, he might have had his own thing going on too? scientifically, women process things by internalizing and men process by externalizing more often (neither one is true 100% of the time for either and it's based purely on your body, not identity), so it's quite likely that he had something else going on and you internalized it to feel like it was you when in reality, it could have been any number of things. 1) have you tried asking him about that time and 2) it really does sound like you care about him so well. you def need to let him know this. probably be clear that you aren't saying it just so that he'll want to date you or anything, but sincerely to let him know how great he is. HOWEVER don't forget that any relationship has 2 sides, and he's gotta hold up his end too. don't break your back carrying the friendship all on your own. if he isn't open to being a good friend to you, it's hard, but you have to let that friendship go. i've had toxic friendships before that i've cut off and it was hard, but it felt so good long term. i'm not saying this relationship is toxic at all, it sounds quite lovely, but just give it time if he's not doing much to sustain the relationship and don't push yourself too hard.
tkd2010 Bracelet King	6 months, 4 weeks ago by tkd2010 @kpn ofc! yeah i totally get where your coming from. i hope y’all can have a heart to heart soon and everything will be better. yeah ik exactly why he was acting strange tho. it was the first time i saw him after the night he asked me to dance and i turned him down. his guy friends all playfully made fun of him for awhile afterwards so it made it worse. i was honestly going to dance with him but i barely know how and didn’t wanna look stupid 😭 and he asked multiple times and even told me to pick a song and i didn’t omg. i just wanted to forget it bc i felt so bad and i’m sure he did too. he’s just so sweet and goofy and weird but in a good way and i don’t want to lose our friendship. maybe soon i can try and text him. but i might just wait until i can see him face to face. tysm for your help. i appreciate it sm <3
KK120308 Bracelet King	6 months, 3 weeks ago by KK120308 I think i met the love of my life and he told me he loved me but like im in such disbelief about it. Like he’s perfect and i’ve never had somebody be in love with me back. and then like
KK120308 Bracelet King	6 months, 3 weeks ago by KK120308 (i accidentally clicked wrong) but like we’re both like the most i guess you could say scared of actually being physically close with other people but like he literally calls me perfect and just agggh im so in love and my life feels like You’re In Love by Taylor Swift and Everything Has Changed ahhhh
tkd2010 Bracelet King	6 months, 3 weeks ago by tkd2010 @KK120308 girl he sounds like a keeper <3 that’s so great, i wish the best for y’all 🙏🏼

tkd2010 Bracelet King	6 months, 1 week ago by tkd2010 @kpn you’ll never guess what happened omg. so yesterday i literally had a breakdown bc i missed him sm and felt like crap. well today i was watching yt and i got a notification that he added me back on snap. so i snapped him just like something random that i sent to everyone. and then he started conversation and we’ve been talking for a few hours now 🙌🏼
catpotato Professional	6 months, 1 week ago by catpotato Me and my friend group are the good girls at my school and it’s completely true we are a really close group who just so happen to all be really kind🙂 so naturally when a new girl at our school arrives we are the first group of kids to welcome and friend her. for privacy reasons I am going to call this girl Clair so Clair Is really sweet the first two weeks and is instantly excepted in our friend group but after the first few weeks Clair starts showing her true colors! me and my friends realize she must have just been shy at first and now that Clair is comfortable at our school she starts picking on kids including me and my friends who had been VERY KIND TO HER!!! She especially started calling me STUPID when I got questions wrong 😑 it made me really doubt my Academic abilities and it made me really made! The other girls in my group where done with her and wanted to unfriend Clair I did to of course but I pressured us to stay friends with her because #1 we where her only friends and #2 it can be really hard for new kids to be at a new school but most of all my parents said I had to and did not understand how badly I was being bullied so I stayed strong and showed Mercy like God says to but then she started spreading rumors about me and my friends and I just had to except she was a total jerk but there’s nothing I can do about since she always Hangs out with us and we can’t just ghost her caus that would be mean! I am finally getting a break from Clair this summer but what should I do next year? Please give advice if you made it this far and forgive me for ranting sooooo long😅
tkd2010 Bracelet King	6 months, 1 week ago by tkd2010 @catpotato that’s horrible! i’m so sorry y’all are going thru this. just keep in mind, not wanting to be friends with someone anymore is not mean. just don’t be mean abt it. just slowly take steps back from her until it feel right. it should definitely help being away from her this summer. and don’t be afraid to confront her abt her being rude to y’all. again, don’t be rude back. just be straight up and let her know that y’all won’t tolerate it. also let her know that you want the friendship to work out but if she can’t respect y’all that it would be better off if y’all weren’t friends anymore.
catpotato Professional	6 months, 1 week ago by catpotato @tkd2010 I have tried to slowly grow apart from her though it is proving very difficult 😞 but I do just want to thank you for supporting me for not wanting to to be her friend. Also thanks for opening this forum topic caus I really needed to talk about that and feel heard and understood!
kpn Bracelet King	6 months, 1 week ago by kpn @tkd2010 yesssss birth of a friendship

tkd2010 Bracelet King	6 months, 1 week ago by tkd2010 @catpotato well i wish you the best! <3 always come back if you need to rant/get advice
tkd2010 Bracelet King	6 months, 1 week ago by tkd2010 @kpn more like rebirth lol. we stayed up until 3 last night talking and i’m so glad he’s back in my life
jameson007 Skiller	6 months, 1 week ago by jameson007 @catpotato I was actually in a very similar situation a couple years ago. I had a friend bully me and I debated for months about ending the friendship. I knew that if I stopped being friends with her the whole friendship group would stop being friends with her and she would have to find a new group of friends which can be hard. Eventually she left the friend group and it was the best thing for my mental health. My advice to you is to try and have a conversation with her. Express your feelings and if she is understanding then you can stay friends with her. But if she is defensive or just doesn’t care then end the friendship. Do whatever is best for yourself and your mental health.

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