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Himani6204
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Himani6204
2 years, 1 month ago by Himani6204
Ok, so I have a friends. Let's pretend her name's A. So what happened was that Friend A kept a profile pic of herself playing the violin. Though I thought that profile pics where for public and I showed it to my friend who is friends with Friend A. I didn't do this in a mean way. Instead I did this because it was a nice photo. This happened in the bus to go to a field trip. At the bus the orchestra teacher peaked at my phone and looked at the photo. Though all he said that it was a nice photo. Other than that no one knew about this photo. So the next day Friend A was really mad about it. It was then I realized that it was her mom who changed the profile pic and it wasn't her. At that moment I apologized and told her I didn't know that she would be so offended and told her I only showed it my friend and the teacher because I thought she was okay with the pic. It's been four days since this happened and she didn't talk to me and I am now afraid to approach her.
Himani6204
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Himani6204
2 years, 1 month ago by Himani6204
Also, Friend A wasn't at the field trip at all. So I kinda don't know who told her about the photo...
sage-wolf
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sage-wolf
2 years ago by sage-wolf
she’s overreacting.. it’s understandable that she would be embarrassed (I’m very embarrassed by my singing even though I take lessons and know I’m okay at it) but pfps are public and it’s reasonable of you to be like “wow it’s cool that she plays violin and this is a really good pic” I think you should explain that there was no way of knowing that she didn’t pick it herself, and that you genuinely like the picture. if she’s mad at that maybe consider just giving her space. forever. she doesn’t sound that great.
--Ellie--
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--Ellie--
2 years ago by --Ellie--
I agree with the person above, profile pictures are public so its not like people would have only seen it if you showed them. Plus you said you thought it was a good picture and other people did too so you would see no issue in showing it to other people. It didn't seem like an embarrassing photo to you. I think if you do talk to your friend about it you should tell her calmly that you had no way in knowing that she wasn't the one to set the picture and that she shouldn't take it out on you. You did nothing wrong, if anything A did the wrong thing!
Himani6204
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Himani6204
1 year, 8 months ago by Himani6204
Okay,

I know it has been a very long time though I just wanted to give a summary of what happened after and also advice of what I should do now. (Read my first post)

So after the incident friend A and I weren't talking. I really wanted to say sorry but I couldn't with fear. So then I asked my best friend (the other one who saw the photo an is friends with friend A) to convey my feelings and that I was sorry and how it was only over a photo. When she did though this "friend" A called me a little b word and saying more similar stuff about me. Ever since then, this person acted like she never knew me and avoids me in a kind of rude way. For example, today when someone bumped into me hard in a game due to her tagging the the person who bumped into me she asked "Are you okay?" and I replied saying "I'm okay" and than she said "I wasn't talking to you!" Like she doesn't even care if I was hurt or not. Like, does out past friendship mean nothing to her. I am sooo annoyed by her. So could someone give advice of what I should do in the situation. because I don't like the way she acts to me.
Himani6204
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Himani6204
1 year, 8 months ago by Himani6204
I also don't want to break a friendship due to a pfp
xdarkfirex
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xdarkfirex
1 year, 8 months ago by xdarkfirex
Unfortunately I feel like this girl seems kinda toxic from what you’ve told us, and that you would probably be better off no longer being friends with them. The issue definitely seems bigger than a pfp, and for all you know she would have found something else to blame you for eventually. I know removing ties with people is difficult, but that would be my recommendation (especially that you were even too scared to talk to her about the issue)

If you really want to give her one last chance, you can confront her directly and ask her to explain what issues she has with you. If she still refuses to maturely explain anything, then that’s your answer.

I know you probably miss being friends with them, but if their behavior and attitude doesn’t change then you’ll be better off without their needless drama and insults in the long run. Like another person said, giving them space would in the best case scenario allow them to reflect on their actions and later approach you with an apology.
Shiny_Gems
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Shiny_Gems
1 year, 8 months ago by Shiny_Gems
Take a look at yalls friendship and review it. Has this person done something like this to somebody else ? Has this person been a good friend? Has this person been an good influence on me in my life? Toxic people are sucky and its crappy when you become friends with one and they are toxic.
Shiny_Gems
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Shiny_Gems
1 year, 8 months ago by Shiny_Gems
Take a look at yalls friendship and review it. Has this person done something like this to somebody else ? Has this person been a good friend? Has this person been an good influence on me in my life? Toxic people are sucky and its crappy when you become friends with one and they are toxic.
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