I have an emergency (kinda) and i need people to talk to
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Karis07
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2 years, 7 months ago by Karis07
So, my mom just broke the news to me today that my dad is actively pursuing a job in a town four hours away. Of course, for any person this would be difficult, but I have severe ADHD. Not a lot of people know this, especially when talking about a girl with ADHD, but ADHD is spectrum a lot like autism. So it’s much more normal to see people on the lower end of the spectrum, because that’s more common. I have a much more severe case, and struggle a lot with social skills, even though I’m 15. I am very social and love talking to people, but I often end up getting along with adults more than I do kids my age. I’m also very hyperactive, but what I struggle with the most is Conversation with people. I am terrible at regulating my voice. I will say things that I think are hilarious but are actually very inappropriate for that time and place. I am extremely impulsive and I’m terrible at regulating my emotions. I know it may sound like I’m focusing a lot on ADHD but there’s a reason. When I was in middle school, I was so traumatized by bullying that my life was awful. Only last year, I finally found this amazing school for kids who learn differently than others. I feel like I belong. I met my best friend, my first friend who I have ever made on my own. I just had my first sleepover with her two weeks ago and we planned for her to sleep over at my house this weekend. I started to talk to my mom about it and she said that we were going to have to cancel it because my dad is pursuing a job in another Town and we have to visit this weekend. I don’t mean to sound petty, and I really don’t wanna sound like the Movies where the girls move away and miss their friends. I have been through so much, and if you read my bio, you’ll find out that I’ve been through so much more than just ADHD, but I have just recently learned to come out of my shell and now it feels like I’m being ripped away from this place that I love deeply and put into a situation where I am extremely vulnerable. I’m just looking for someone to talk to
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KuteKat
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2 years, 7 months ago by KuteKat
You can talk to me
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bearsbears
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2 years, 7 months ago by bearsbears
I can talk as well. I also have ADHD. I'm sorry about your situation and it will all work out somehow.
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tkd2010
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2 years, 7 months ago by tkd2010
i’m so sorry….this would be hard for anyone and considering the circumstances just makes it worse. i’m so sorry you can always talk to me as well❤️
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Karis07
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2 years, 7 months ago by Karis07
@KuteKat @bearsbears @tkd2010 thanks. It’s not final, but it is actively moving forward. It is difficult for me on many levels, but what is really difficult is that it’s for a church. My family is Christian, and it’s for a job as a pastor. All of the requirements and activities that go into that job are really up my dad‘s alley. Not only do I want him to be happy, but I think it’s great, in fact it’s quite awesome, that he wants to become a pastor. I’m really mad at my parents, mainly because they are making me feel so many emotions Lol
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tkd2010
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2 years, 7 months ago by tkd2010
yes your dad will be happy. but will you? you probably can’t change their minds if they decide to. but whatever you think is best for YOU, you should try and persuade them to do that. although it may mean your dad not being as happy YOU will be happy like you are rn. he will have to learn to be happy that your happy.
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Karis07
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2 years, 7 months ago by Karis07
Well to be honest, I’ll love the thought of my dad going to be a pastor. I don’t mean to get all religious, but that means so much to me even though it really has nothing to do with me. Knowing that my dad will be serving the Lord feels so amazing. I’m just worried about schooling.My parents are going to enroll me in a private school, we don’t know which one, but even still it will probably be hard.
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Karis07
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2 years, 7 months ago by Karis07
@tdk2010 I forgot to tag you sorry
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Karis07
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2 years, 7 months ago by Karis07
@tkd2010
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tkd2010
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2 years, 7 months ago by tkd2010
its fine. yea that’s great that your happy for your dad. i wish the best for you and hope you end up being happy! if you ever need to talk i’m here!💛
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Karis07
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2 years, 7 months ago by Karis07
I’ve always been so adventurous, and this sounds like a huge adventure. It will be so fun. I’m mainly worried about making friends. Where I live now, I only have two real friends. I have chosen that for myself because I have finally realized that having two good friends, two best friends, means so much more than having A bunch of friends who aren’t as close.I used to think that I need to be so popular because then people would like me, but I learned that that is an awful plan and it only caused me to become more hated. Because it’s only four hours away, weekend trips aren’t impossible. But one of my friends is the daughter of someone my mom went to high school with. My mom knew her mom when my mom was in sixth grade and her mom was in ninth. I have grown up with this friend. This is someone I will never forget, but I already see her like only once a month. My other friend goes to school with me and we just relate so much. Both of these friends know how to correct me when I have said something wrong or impulsively, if I am tooLoud, and I’ll get offended when other people do that, but I won’t get offended if they do that because I know that they are looking out for me. I’m excited and I will be upset if it doesn’t go through because I would like to change, they are just many positive and negatives.
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Karis07
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2 years, 7 months ago by Karis07
@tkd2010
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tkd2010
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2 years, 7 months ago by tkd2010
yeah it will be an adventure for sure! you said making friends is what you are most worried abt. if you have a phone you could facetime them. until you find your new friends. but when you make your new friends still stay in touch with your old ones. idk just take it one step at a time until you figure this all out! i wish you the best💛
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bearsbears
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2 years, 7 months ago by bearsbears
Just think of this. You may be happy with where you are right now but is that where God wants you to be? He has big plans for you and this new job for your dad may be the next step for new relationships and more.
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ArtsyAnna
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2 years, 7 months ago by ArtsyAnna
You can talk to me!! I don’t have ADHD but I am a pastors kid and I am currently struggling with pretty much the same issue. Because my dad is moving to a different church. It works out perfectly it seems for everyone in my family. Except me because I have never met any of the people there and I am not good at making friends quickly. But I have learn to accept that this might be God’s will and just trying to trust in / lean on him. It also might help if you try and talk to your parents. But if you ever need someone to talk to or ask something feel free to message me!!
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Karis07
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2 years, 7 months ago by Karis07
@bearsbears I have thought about that a little bit. I know that if we do end up moving, he already has my future friendships planned out and is preparing me and preparing them for a new friendship. I also know that he has given me the friendships I have now, even if it’s just two people, because they have helped further me as a person and shown me that it is OK to be whoever I want to be and that God will be with me every step of the way.Thank you for reminding me of that ❤️
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KuteKat
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2 years, 7 months ago by KuteKat
Remember that you can also keep in touch with your current friends if you move and that you will make new friends
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