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Hazel23

Bracelet King

3 years ago by Hazel23

So I was with this guy for a while and like we were best friends and we had a great connection and we were in love. You know how it is. So like we had a lot of small little arguments about the same kind of thing, and he had talked about not being ready for a relationship before. But when that came up he changed his mind and everything and we were happy. Well then his best girl friend started to bully me and he didn't really say much to her about it and I didn't understand what he was saying so I thought he was siding with her which caused a huge fight. The next day I was still upset so I was pretty rude and everything and that day he broke up with me. He said that he would want to be with me in the future and everything and so I left him alone. But a few days later I contacted him because people were saying I was getting back with my ex and I didn't want him to think that. But then he was like really mad saying he hated me and didn't love me at all but it was only like 4 days after the breakup. He said there was no chance of us ever getting back together. Then a few days later he told my friend that there was a small chance but probably not. After a while I realized that I was far too invested in the relationship and that I was doing a lot of things that I shouldn't be doing. And I found some character flaws. I'm working very hard to fix them. Me and him were supposed to talk on the 10th but now idk if there's a chance of anything at all even though I am already doing better. Do you guys think he just said all that mean stuff because he was trying to hide how he really feels? sorry for the long message. Thank you for reading.

Hazel23

Bracelet King

3 years ago by Hazel23

Also we broke up almost a month ago.

xc2024

Professional

3 years ago by xc2024

honestly yes. i think that like you said you were upset, so you were a bit rude, he was the same way. i know many guys who say mean things when they are mad, also he may have not realized that you were hurt by his friends actions. i’m always amazed at the difference between how girls and guys talk to each other, so he may have not even thought anything of it. i think he was maybe hurt/upset that you and one of his close friends don’t get along too well. also, this may come off like i’m laying the blame on you, i’m not, but you thinking that he sided with her may have caused some of it. to me, it sounds like you both were upset, said some things you didn’t mean, and it’s no ones fault, things happen, but i’d be honest with him, and ask him to do the same. good luck!

Hazel23

Bracelet King

3 years ago by Hazel23

@xc2024 thank you that is really helpful! 🙂

Deuken

Bracelet King

3 years ago by Deuken

Sounds pretty toxic to me, you shouldn’t dwell on it.

Hazel23 Bracelet King	3 years ago by Hazel23 So I was with this guy for a while and like we were best friends and we had a great connection and we were in love. You know how it is. So like we had a lot of small little arguments about the same kind of thing, and he had talked about not being ready for a relationship before. But when that came up he changed his mind and everything and we were happy. Well then his best girl friend started to bully me and he didn't really say much to her about it and I didn't understand what he was saying so I thought he was siding with her which caused a huge fight. The next day I was still upset so I was pretty rude and everything and that day he broke up with me. He said that he would want to be with me in the future and everything and so I left him alone. But a few days later I contacted him because people were saying I was getting back with my ex and I didn't want him to think that. But then he was like really mad saying he hated me and didn't love me at all but it was only like 4 days after the breakup. He said there was no chance of us ever getting back together. Then a few days later he told my friend that there was a small chance but probably not. After a while I realized that I was far too invested in the relationship and that I was doing a lot of things that I shouldn't be doing. And I found some character flaws. I'm working very hard to fix them. Me and him were supposed to talk on the 10th but now idk if there's a chance of anything at all even though I am already doing better. Do you guys think he just said all that mean stuff because he was trying to hide how he really feels? sorry for the long message. Thank you for reading.
Hazel23 Bracelet King	3 years ago by Hazel23 Also we broke up almost a month ago.
xc2024 Professional	3 years ago by xc2024 honestly yes. i think that like you said you were upset, so you were a bit rude, he was the same way. i know many guys who say mean things when they are mad, also he may have not realized that you were hurt by his friends actions. i’m always amazed at the difference between how girls and guys talk to each other, so he may have not even thought anything of it. i think he was maybe hurt/upset that you and one of his close friends don’t get along too well. also, this may come off like i’m laying the blame on you, i’m not, but you thinking that he sided with her may have caused some of it. to me, it sounds like you both were upset, said some things you didn’t mean, and it’s no ones fault, things happen, but i’d be honest with him, and ask him to do the same. good luck!
Hazel23 Bracelet King	3 years ago by Hazel23 @xc2024 thank you that is really helpful! 🙂
Deuken Bracelet King	3 years ago by Deuken Sounds pretty toxic to me, you shouldn’t dwell on it.

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