I need some help from LGBTQIA+ people
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Elwen
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3 years, 7 months ago by Elwen
I think I might be panromantic, do you guys think 12 is too young to know?
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OwObama
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3 years, 7 months ago by OwObama
Maybe, but there's no harm in using the label while you're figuring it out! Lots of people in the LGBT community go through several different identities before landing on the one they resonate most with. Interacting with the communities of the labels you're considering is a good way to get some clarity on it, and if you turn out to be wrong then no harm done! Either way, you don't need to have a label or fit into a certain group for your feelings for someone to be valid. Don't stress about it and it'll become clearer as time goes on and you get more experience. |
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crafter83
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3 years, 7 months ago by crafter83
Most people believe they are straight at 12 and no one tells them they are to young to know.Don’t let your age be a factor |
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ChaosZone
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3 years, 7 months ago by ChaosZone
I went through the same thing at the same age and it ended up working out. Lost of people go through different phases until finding the one that suits them best. And just labeling yourself for the time being as what you think you are, can really help you out in finding if it's right or not. And if it feels right, then it most likely is, and there's no harm in finding out who you are no matter the age. So for me, how old you are doesn't matter.
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Elwen
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3 years, 7 months ago by Elwen
@OwObama @crafter83 @ChaosZone thank you so much, I appreciate all your kind comments. Thank you all so much.
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crafter83
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3 years, 7 months ago by crafter83
No problem, I wish you the best of luck
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Karo-H
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3 years, 7 months ago by Karo-H
Hi @Elwen , It’s brave of you to learn more about yourself and I support you in your attempts! As for the label ‘panromantic’ or whatever label (or none!) you believe describes you the best: if you feel like you might be panromantic, you totally might be and can call yourself that if you want! Yes, you are 12, which is young but that doesn’t mean you don’t have a right to learn more about yourself and use labels that you think suit you. I’m going to try to explain it with an example, a simplistic one but one that does the job I feel: Let’s say that 6 years ago your dream job was to become a doctor and you told everybody about and it made you happy. Today you are 12 and realized you actually prefer to become an artist instead. Does that mean 6yo you was wrong? NO! They did their best with the self-knowledge and interests they had at the time. That ‘label’ doctor is as valid as the artist one in this case. LGBTQ+ and such is a spectrum and fluid. It might change over time, it might not. You saying you are panromantic now isn’t wrong, it’s who you are now and what you think fits you the best! If later you feel like the label isn’t the best for you anymore, you learned more about yourself and what you want/are, then that’s okay! If one day you decide you are straight or trans or whatever, you are valid! So don’t worry too much about ‘picking the Right label’ and ‘what if it changes/is “not true”?’, you have all the time in the world to figure out. At this moment you do you. Find out what is the most comfortable for you, whether this is choosing a label or waiting a bit longer. I don’t have all the answers, the opposite really, as I am figuring out who I am as well but this is what I personally think on the matter. I wish you good luck in your self-discovery journey and hope you are proud of yourself for wanting to learn more about yourself and being strong and brave enough to ask questions about it. Have a nice day! ❤️ |
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ChaosZone
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3 years, 7 months ago by ChaosZone
No problem! 😄
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Elwen
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3 years, 7 months ago by Elwen
@Karo-H Thank you for the support, it means a lot to me.
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roundcat
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3 years, 7 months ago by roundcat
There are some who know from day one what their sexual, romantic, and gender are. Then there are many people like me who live in a constant flux of questioning and exploration. Many us us who land on the ace, bi, and genderqueer spectrums often spend a lot of time in questioning, exploring, and reevaluating given the nature of these identities. Opinions are going to differ from person to person, but as far as I'm concerned, if the label fits, and it brings you joy and gives you pride, then use it. You may be panromantic today, omnisexual tomorrow, lebian/gay later in your life. Maybe you realize you were straight after all, but you use your experiences to become an advocate for the LGBT+ community. This is a valid path to take in your journey of self discovery. No matter where you end up later down the line, remember the people you've met along your journey. What holds this family together is empathy towards all of our unique experiences. |
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