TOXIC FRIENDS !!! page 2
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Firecorn
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3 years, 10 months ago by Firecorn
Oh so my friend just broke up with a toxic friend and the “friend” was just like oh your being dramatic and my friend was just like oh so I am the dramatic one, caring about my feelings and how you are making me less confident about myself and stuff and the “friend” was just like every time you are upset you don’t give a chance to help, so we just give you space, but my friend told me that every time that she says that brought up the topic that she thinks she has anxiety, the “friend” was just like oh you shouldn’t self diagnose yourself or stop being dramatic, and when my friend came to hang out with me, she always saying how she feels less self confident with the way she has been treated. And again when she broke up with the “friend” the “friend just was looking confused, but she didn’t even care the fact that my friend had told her that she didn’t want to be friends anymore, she was just like ok 🙄 But my friend is feeling and looking way more self confident now and I am so happy for her!
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kmmorell
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3 years, 10 months ago by kmmorell
@cam44 3 words for you ... bruh... bruh... bruh
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wynpig
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3 years, 10 months ago by wynpig
okay, so here we go. this is all several years ago btw. so my elementary school was grades pre k- 5th. my school had around 80 kids per grade and there were 4 classes, 20 kids per class. there were pretty much never any new kids, so you were always with the same group of 80 kids for all of elementary. in 3rd grade though, a new girl shows up. she seems really nice and we had a ton in common (cross country experience, loved sports, had unique names, enjoyed swimming etc.) i wasn't in her class, but we talked and said hello every once in a while. her name was pacyn. flash forward into 5th grade, i'm not in the same class as any of my friends. i was in a class with a girl named juliette though. we weren't super close, but i liked her and we had hung out previously. she was friends with pacyn. i got alot closer with juliette, but our friendship was super toxic. she'd say bad stuff about me, and then just cry and say she didn't do anything wrong. at lunch she'd rate all of her friends and i came in 6th, even though i would've considered her my bestfriend. anyways this continues for almost the whole school year. i then find out that juliette and pacyn are secretly running a hate club for me and one of my other friends (hattie). i heard songs, saw meetings, and even saw a letter about how i was such an awful person. i litterally didn't do anything wrong, juliette just wanted attention, so she told pacyn bad stuff about me which led to the hate club and songs, meetings, etc. anyways i still remember the note, and it kinda hurts. pacyn wrote the note to juliette and it said something along the lines of: "bronwyn is an awful person, you should stop pretending you like her. she's so fake and annoying. i'll get revenge on her." i never told anyone about it because i feel stupid for letting it bug me. anyways, i eventually confronted pacyn about it and she denied it at first, but eventually admitted she had started the whole thing. flash forward to the beginning of 6th grade. i don't have any classes with pacyn, thankfully, but i did have a few with juliette. we put the whole thing behind us, and started to be friends again. she sat with me at lunch and we always did projects together. until one day she just decides that she doesn't like me anymore lol. so she left and i never saw her again. yeah, so that sums up why i hated 5th and most of 6th grade. 🙂
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Hazel23
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3 years, 10 months ago by Hazel23
Just drop them. Toxic people are not worth your time just be like hey your nice and all but there are some things that I can’t just deal with so we need to go different ways.
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PugCakePop
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3 years, 10 months ago by PugCakePop
@Deer-Teeth i'm in shock...i've never understood how people can change so drastically, especiqlly after you've known them for so long.
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PugCakePop
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3 years, 10 months ago by PugCakePop
@Deer-Teeth woah, she faked cancer? That's not ok. ☹️
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Deer-Teeth
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3 years, 10 months ago by Deer-Teeth
@PugCakePop it was terrible, i couldn't believe it either. and yeah, that all started when we got worried about my neck. I had to have surgery on my neck for a mysterious lump that kept growing. we actually thought that it might be breast cancer since both of my grandmas died premenopausal from it where it spread through the lymph nodes (the neck and armpit) into their brains, and awhile back i took a blood test that said i carried the gene for one of the types and that we needed to keep an eye on stuff like that. I mentioned it to her because I was freaked out because i didn't know how to tell my mom and all of a sudden she was saying that she HAD cancer and knew what i was going through???? which made no sense because she's the type of person who would have said something about that the moment she found out. then she kept bringing it up and changing the subject to her even when i was on the verge of tears from panic. I had an ultrasound done on my neck, then went to an ENT who said that it was a swollen lymph node and that if it was causing me issues we would remove it. got to the point where i couldn't turn my head without discomfort, blah blah blah, had surgery, turns out they couldn't find it??? so they took some biopsies of the muscle and the other lymph nodes and gave me a steroid shot, the shot helped and im still good to this day but its still there lol its weird. I'm just hurt she would say that. I lost my step grandma to cancer (the only one i ever knew, the others died before I was born) and it was horrible seeing hat she had to go through. I couldn't be there for her, and that was still while i was going to that school. I know she didn't know about that so its not like she knew how much it really hurt but she shouldn't have lied in the first place, I hate her actions so much. every time I would pass her in the hallways I would think of my grandma who was homebound in a hospital bed in our living room (really weird?? we had hospice and she had her own bed and everything, just smack-dab in the middle of the living room) my anxiety at that point got so bad that I could leave in the middle of class and go hide in the bathrooms and locker rooms or skip class because i couldn't handle having a class with her. |
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PugCakePop
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3 years, 10 months ago by PugCakePop
@Deer-Teeth oh wow...i hope you're doing better now and have overcome your anxiety. Thats really horrible for her to do that especially when you knew and lost them to cancer. And how she faked mental illness? That's a serious issue, it was really bad of her to do that.. And also how selfish and insensitive was it of her to bring the attention back to her when you were literally panicking?? I cannot even process how weird and unbelievable it must be to have a close friend just turn into someone else like that.
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Deer-Teeth
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3 years, 10 months ago by Deer-Teeth
@PugCakePop aaa thank you!! I've been working on it since then, when i moved i had a chance to start over and do things a better way, and since then I've gotten the help i need and have been working to better myself. she didn't know, so I don't think she realized the impact that had on me, but either way it was still wrong. faking mental illness has been a trend where i live for who knows how long. I'm a senior in highschool, and when i was in 7th grade everyone started faking mental illnesses because it made them quirky and special (i will admit i did the same thing, but have since then figured out that was not okay by my 8th grade year). its not right, and i still find people who do it to this day. I actually want to go into psychology! i love the way the human mind works and i hate how so many people are miseducated on what mental illness really is. She was petty, she liked attention! who doesn't? and she was use to a lot more than what everyone else is because of her issues, but she always wanted to seem strong and independent, and when people treated her as an independent she got upset because she felt like her need weren't being met and that people like (someone with a completely different issue at my school) were getting attention they didn't need (when this kid has had more surgeries then her, is mentally slow, can barely walk, and is actually nice to everyone??) she literally sat me down one day and told me this student didn't deserve the treatment he got by his peers. i don't understand why i stuck around for so long. I cared about her, she went from my sister, to lover, then back to sister, again and again because we cared for each other. i'm glad i see what was wrong in the situation but :/ it still hurts to think about sometimes |
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PugCakePop
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3 years, 10 months ago by PugCakePop
@Deer-Teeth i'm happy you're better now! (:
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Deuken
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3 years, 10 months ago by Deuken
@Heidiv Had a toxic friend in 7th grade and I removed her from my life, then next year she got into some pretty big drama at school. Save my butt there! 😂
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as_he
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3 years, 10 months ago by as_he
I had a friend we gonna call her Chloe now you see Chloe was a nice person in the beginning bu this girl was crazy after 2 weeks ( YES 2 WEEKS) she was co dependent , basically ended all my friends with other people bc " BSFS need to stay with each other only". OUTED MY SECRETS TO EVERYBODY after that i told her that she was an absolute devil respectfully and told her to get out of my life but then she started stalking me and threatening me and my other non-toxic friends so yeah there is more but it's TOO MUCH.
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heyppl8976
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3 years, 10 months ago by heyppl8976
Stop ok so I had A TON of toxic friends but I’ll give one story. There was this one “guy” I talked to for about 6-7 months. He would always gaslight me, etc. I ended up talking to his siblings, which later my friend and I found out they were fake, but that’s later in the story. He ends up dating this guy named eden. Eden was nice I guess, he was really rude towards me. He has a tendency of cheating on the guy, so I confronted him. He went off on me, proceeded to tell lies about me to the person I was friends with. He then made his “brother” go off on me. I didn’t talk to me for several weeks, and me knowing what eden said wasn’t true, because I had PROOF, and I couldn’t send it to Jackson, the guy, because we talk on a game. Made me really upset to be honest. Then, around 2 months ago WARNING, IM ABOUT TO MENTION HARMING, AND SUICIDE IN THIS PART OF THE STORY, click off if this triggers you 🙂 anyways so, he comes back and I’m like “omg where were you” Jackson was like “school” then my friend devin, who went off on him made jackson mad. As usual he pulled the “I’m going to kms” etc. Obviously I knew he was bluffing so Jenna and I, who was his friend, we confronted him. We told him how we KNEW the siblings were fake, and how we knew he was actually a GIRL. which is perfectly fine with me. I really didn’t care, it’s just the fact he kept lying about harming, and being in the hospital- it’s been a 2 months now usually he takes a 1 month break from talking to us, but I think he might have actually done something bad- I’ve been honestly stressing about it ever sense. Ok so now I’m going to make a new post, talking about some of my other experiences because I feel like they need to be shared. ESPECIALLY IF YOU KNOW ANYBODY IM GOING TO MENTION- 😭😭
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heyppl8976
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3 years, 10 months ago by heyppl8976
This story happened last year, tomorrow is going to be one year sense it happened, which it’s going to be tuff getting through the day. ANYWAYS this started after a girl named jasmine introduced me to her friend Jace. Jace was the type of person who was really stand off-ish to everyone, but once you get to know him he was really nice. We go about a week into talking, on thanksgiving I was like, “hey I like you” he liked me back so we started dating. This is where it spirals out of control. He was really nice in the first month, soon he would always say that if I didn’t do something he would kill himself, or harm. Me, being the stupid person I was at the time didn’t realize that most of the things he did and said was gaslighting and phychological abuse. Anyways so, turns out he had a step brother, (he died from what Jace said, from suicide but then why always bring it up?) anyways. He also had a sister. Her and I were pretty close. Once I went to his state, because I was going to an event, and I saw him- I didn’t know it was him at the time. Keep in mind all of this stuff was online . I then met someone else named Meghan. She was cool. But she always made things about herself. So then , I let Jace end up talking to my friends in a gc. Turns out he was taking them from me by telling them lies, such as when I was 12, that I lied about being sexually harassed, and I was fed up with it. So yk, on March 18th (keel in mind we were together for 6 months) I decided to stand up for myself. I told him what he was doing, was wrong. He then got all offended, made everyone gang up and go off on me, sense MY OWN FRIENDS believed him more. So then I was obviously hurt by this. It led me to do some pretty bad things. Later my friend realized that he was wrong, but the girl MEGHAN, decided that she was going to team up with Jace and try and do it again , which worked. I lost everyone AGAIN, and again the same stuff happened. Eventually it led me to do even more bad things. I still haven’t told any adults. I know I have C-PTSD from it, I can tell. I don’t want it to seem like I’m self diagnosing, because I’m not. anyways, so I got back in contact with him and we’re ok now I guess. ALSO EVERYTIME I GET NEW FRIENDS, NEW RELATIONSHIPS. HE TRIES TO RUIN HIM. He always finds ways to mess up everything in my life. Tomorrow is amber, the girl that he replaced me with, and jaces one year. I know that shouldn’t effect me sense it’s come and over with but it still hurts. I’m still trying to move on from him. Me being friends with him again sucks too. I told him about how I go by they/them and he proceeded to make fun of me and call me a girl. There has been several times I think my other online friends might be him. Even though they aren’t, but it’s a constant fear. Everyday I live in fear that if I mess up something even my in person friends will do what he did. It’s like I can’t move forward in my life sense I’m still worrying about him, and everyone else. I’m really trying to better myself from this. There’s some days where I forget it even happened and I’ll be in a great mood but then bam..it all comes back and hits me. I hate it. I hate him. I know hate is a strong word and should be used wisely but in this case I’m going to use it . I really don’t know why he did the things he did. I don’t know what he got out of that. I know he probably thought it was so funny, but look what he did to me. I even told him SEVERAL times to leave me alone. He won’t. He won’t listen to anybody. I can’t even tell my parents sense they don’t approve of online relationships, or friendships. I tried to meditate, do yoga, try a sport but it doesn’t take my mind off it. Some days the flashbacks will be so bad I can’t even function. Which sucks. I really don’t know what can help me at this point. Sense ibe tried everything. I think I’m still trying to process what happened in a way- but then it’s like I here that this happens to people and they recover in 3-5 months, and I know everyone’s recovery is different. Which means I shouldn’t be rushing myself but I’m tired of living like this. So yeah that’s the story .
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Vivi07
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3 years, 10 months ago by Vivi07
@Basilology Definitely take debating! She may think it’s stupid but you gain so much experience and actually worthwhile skills through it! Also don’t base what you choose of what she chooses. I would say drop her, and stick up for yourself. People will only go on walking over you if you let them. I know it’s really hard to drop people but if you don’t it’s probably not great for your mental health in the long term. Maybe try and put some distance between yourselves and slowly drift away.
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Basilology
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3 years, 9 months ago by Basilology
@Vivi07 Thanks for the advice 😊. I've been ignoring her on google chat for 16 days so far. The thing is that I have a school project that I have to do together. I'm thinking of doing it by my self instead.
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Xxpuffish
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3 years, 9 months ago by Xxpuffish
I already dropped my toxic friend and honestly I don’t think she was like that on purpose we just weren’t a good fit anymore and she could never be happy for me unless it made her happy too she moved so it made it a lot easier to fall out
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