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nev_m_07

Bracelet King

1 year, 8 months ago by nev_m_07

so there was this guy and in june of last year, i told him i liked him and he told me that he liked me back but wasn’t ready to be in a relationship. I was fine with that, and waited. So for a while, we were more than friends, and it was fine. We would talk a lot at school and hang out a lot as well. We even went to homecoming together (granted, as friends, but I digress). I started to notice that I was constantly making the first move, but I ignored it bc he’s shy and awkward abt talking abt relationship stuff. Anyways a couple weeks ago, I texted him basically just asking him like where we were in terms of our relationship. He didn’t respond for over an hour, and I started getting a feeling that his response was not going to be positive. A little over an hour after sending the text, he replied and said “Yea sorry, I just don’t have feelings for you like that anymore.” And obviously I was crushed, I cried for a little bit, then decided it wasn’t rlly worth crying over since we were never rlly dating to begin with. But now I’m angry and hurt that he potentially never had feelings for me this whole time, but I’m also mad at myself for ignoring the signs and romaniticising everything. Things were awkward between us all last week, but better this week. The only thing is I’m fine at school when I talk to him, but then I’m not fine later on. And I don’t want to be hurt or sad bc there was never really anything between us anyway. I just want to know if anyone has any advice for getting over this because this was my first real crush (I’ve had crushes before but never like this one).

Rowsitt

Bracelet King

1 year, 8 months ago by Rowsitt

that sucks. i’m really sorry. to be honest, i think the best thing to do is like be aware of your feelings because the worse thing to try and get over something is ignoring how you feel toward it. i don’t know you very well, but i have known people where to get over a crush, they’ll go for another person to try and get over the first one. i don’t know if you would do that, but i would advise against that. my advice ig would be to take some time for yourself and if anything, time heals which is something i know is annoying (at least for me) but since this is recent, these feelings are probably the worst it’s going to be as long as you don’t try to encourage them yk?

nev_m_07

Bracelet King

1 year, 8 months ago by nev_m_07

@Rowsitt thanks for that. It’s slowly getting better and things are less awkward now but it still hurts, so I’m definitely going to take some time to let myself heal. 🫶🏽

xChellax

Professional

1 year, 8 months ago by xChellax

Big hug to you! I think im alot older, but i know the times that my heart broke because a relation didnt end well. First tip: Dont ignore feelings. Second: That endings also mean new beginnings. I dont wanna be rude, but its really rare that "first loves" last for ever. But with time, you will find the right ones (yes i say ones, because in our life we grow, we get different interests etc. So some times a relation will be going great untill you are no longer on the same "line". But every end, even when its for the better will hurt! give yourself time to heal, since the rebounds never work (even when it feels good for the time going on) just dont, heal before going on into a new relation.

nev_m_07 Bracelet King	1 year, 8 months ago by nev_m_07 so there was this guy and in june of last year, i told him i liked him and he told me that he liked me back but wasn’t ready to be in a relationship. I was fine with that, and waited. So for a while, we were more than friends, and it was fine. We would talk a lot at school and hang out a lot as well. We even went to homecoming together (granted, as friends, but I digress). I started to notice that I was constantly making the first move, but I ignored it bc he’s shy and awkward abt talking abt relationship stuff. Anyways a couple weeks ago, I texted him basically just asking him like where we were in terms of our relationship. He didn’t respond for over an hour, and I started getting a feeling that his response was not going to be positive. A little over an hour after sending the text, he replied and said “Yea sorry, I just don’t have feelings for you like that anymore.” And obviously I was crushed, I cried for a little bit, then decided it wasn’t rlly worth crying over since we were never rlly dating to begin with. But now I’m angry and hurt that he potentially never had feelings for me this whole time, but I’m also mad at myself for ignoring the signs and romaniticising everything. Things were awkward between us all last week, but better this week. The only thing is I’m fine at school when I talk to him, but then I’m not fine later on. And I don’t want to be hurt or sad bc there was never really anything between us anyway. I just want to know if anyone has any advice for getting over this because this was my first real crush (I’ve had crushes before but never like this one).
Rowsitt Bracelet King	1 year, 8 months ago by Rowsitt that sucks. i’m really sorry. to be honest, i think the best thing to do is like be aware of your feelings because the worse thing to try and get over something is ignoring how you feel toward it. i don’t know you very well, but i have known people where to get over a crush, they’ll go for another person to try and get over the first one. i don’t know if you would do that, but i would advise against that. my advice ig would be to take some time for yourself and if anything, time heals which is something i know is annoying (at least for me) but since this is recent, these feelings are probably the worst it’s going to be as long as you don’t try to encourage them yk?
nev_m_07 Bracelet King	1 year, 8 months ago by nev_m_07 @Rowsitt thanks for that. It’s slowly getting better and things are less awkward now but it still hurts, so I’m definitely going to take some time to let myself heal. 🫶🏽
xChellax Professional	1 year, 8 months ago by xChellax Big hug to you! I think im alot older, but i know the times that my heart broke because a relation didnt end well. First tip: Dont ignore feelings. Second: That endings also mean new beginnings. I dont wanna be rude, but its really rare that "first loves" last for ever. But with time, you will find the right ones (yes i say ones, because in our life we grow, we get different interests etc. So some times a relation will be going great untill you are no longer on the same "line". But every end, even when its for the better will hurt! give yourself time to heal, since the rebounds never work (even when it feels good for the time going on) just dont, heal before going on into a new relation.

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