advice abt a guy?
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sage-wolf
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1 year, 10 months ago by sage-wolf
hey, y’all. so there’s this guy that whose little brother goes to the same music school as me. both him and his brother are really nice ppl. their names are AJ (older bro) and ian (younger bro). i’m pretty sure AJ likes me, bc he smiled when he said he saw me dancing on the balcony at a music school concert. (it was a rlly cringey dance too and i was forced to do it by Ian’s friend..) also he knew i was the singer for my group which makes me feel like they talked abt me. he seemed kinda sad when i said i was 2 yrs younger than him (it’s prob closer to one but he doesn’t know that) and lastly HE TRIED TO GIVE ME SINGING TIPS and was like “i used to sing for a long time too” i already knew all of it but it was rlly nice of him. he’s nice, and funny, and honestly he’s not unattractive the thing is, i’m a closeted lesbian. i don’t like men.. and i wouldn’t be opposed to dating him even, it’s just that i could never feel the same as him. i would date him as a cover up to look straight but that would just kind of make me a bad person, so i wouldn’t actually do that. and i wanna be his friend and be nice to him and like be closer w him, but idk how to do that without leading him on. and i can’t just say “look man i’m lesbian srry let’s be friends tho” because my parents are always around and i’m closeted.. any advice? god i wish i was straight 💀 |
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Aussie_Izz
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1 year, 10 months ago by Aussie_Izz
Welll this is haRD I could tell some ppl who would give could advice to have a look at this if you want?
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sage-wolf
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1 year, 10 months ago by sage-wolf
@Aussie_Izz that would be amazing tysm!
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Aussie_Izz
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1 year, 10 months ago by Aussie_Izz
np!
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hollow_log
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1 year, 10 months ago by hollow_log
honestly u don’t owe him anything. like if he asks u out there’s no shame in just saying i don’t feel the same but i’d love to be friends. if the only way to prevent him from getting mad would be coming out, then get urself outta there. leading him on would be like flirting w him disingenuously, which it doesn’t seem like ur doing. i have a tendency to overthink this stuff too, ur not alone lol.
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sage-wolf
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1 year, 9 months ago by sage-wolf
@hollow_log thx, i don’t see him often so it prob won’t happen but still it kinda makes me uncomfortable bc he so clearly likes me and idk what to do, but ty you’re def right i don’t owe him anything
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hollow_log
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1 year, 9 months ago by hollow_log
if it makes u uncomfy, tell him. like say hey u snap me a lot and i’d like a little bit more space or something like that. sorry ik how awkward a situation like this can feel lol
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sage-wolf
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1 year, 9 months ago by sage-wolf
@hollow_log lollll i don’t even have snap it’s just when i see him in person
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hollow_log
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1 year, 9 months ago by hollow_log
oh i though u mentioned snap that was probs another person (i spend way too much time in the forum lol). it’s kinda a weird situation. does it make u uncomfy that he likes u or the specific things he says to u?
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sage-wolf
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1 year, 9 months ago by sage-wolf
@hollow_log just that he likes me lol, it’s so awkward
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mariatere
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1 year, 9 months ago by mariatere
I kind of felt the same when my ex-and-only-online-male-friend (our friendship died because of different political perspectives) told me that he liked me. I'm abroromantic but I usually tell people that I'm a romance-repulsive lesbian (because it's usually the case and, honestly, no one knows what abroromantic means) so I told him that friendship ment more to me than romance and I tried to ignore the fact that he liked me (that was the most difficult part, but I got used to it after a couple of months ). If you're not comfy telling people that you're lesbian, I don't think you should, I've never had to deal with serious homophobia, but conversations can get really awkward when you tell the wrong people at the wrong time.
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srimpy
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1 year, 9 months ago by srimpy
Ok so...idk how to give advice for this kind of drama man but I’d just try to avoid that guy if you don’t already but any time you see him maybe just don’t talk to them...but if you do want to talk to them just bc talk than idk and Ik this advice is cringe but yah also E
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