question about deadnames
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akanel
Bracelet King
akanel
2 years, 2 months ago by akanel
ok so I have a friend who I knew in preschool and is now trans. Whenever I want to quote something from preschool that uses his deadname, do I use the deadname or do I use his name?
Odanak1811
Moderator
Odanak1811
2 years, 2 months ago by Odanak1811
I think it's better to never use someone's deadname. My cousin is trans and I try to never use his deadname, even when I talk about moments before he came out as trans, because he once told me that someone calling him by his deadname felt like an insult to him...
Treehouse
Professional
Treehouse
2 years, 2 months ago by Treehouse
in my experience people tend to prefer when you use their current name over their deadname when talking about things before coming out
killthedj
Skiller
killthedj
2 years, 1 month ago by killthedj
NONONONO NEVER NEVER NEVER use someone's deadname. Ever.
You should probably ask him directly to be 100% sure but most trans people don't want their deadname to be brought up in any conversation
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