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2 years, 8 months ago by Roxi_cat7
This may be very long. I apologize. So, I’ve liked this guy since 4th grade, we’re really close friends etc… but recently we’ve shifted from liking each other just to close friends. I’m cool with that. He likes another girl, I’ve moved away from him… and I don’t like anyone else. Or so he thought (cue the dramatic music) Now, I have this friend who is a little drama obsessed. Boy crazy, you name it. So she likes (liked. Who knows?) this guy in her class. But he flatly rejected her, and she went to argue it… it ended with him telling her that she’s a toxic person, and that he doesn’t like her, even as a friend. |
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2 years, 8 months ago by Roxi_cat7
I helped her deal with some of it, and it was fine. Until I joined debate club. (He joined as well…) now, one thing that you should know about me, is that I’m always up for a good argument. The first few weeks went pretty well - he actually got Covid, so missed like 3 of them - and we did a few small debates. Another activity I’m very involved in is Cadets. Once a year, we have a formal dinner (Cadet Mess) with fancy dining hall, 3 course meal, and guest speakers (I go to a private school, it’s a lot). This guy (I guess we should give him a name. How about Alex) isn’t part of our Cadet Corp, but he’s in the cadet band, so he got to be there. The funny thing is that the cadet red uniform has a cinched waist, and while my friends were genuinely laughing at the guys, I couldn’t help notice that he looked good in the uniform. I kind of confronted myself, and considered the fact that I might actually like him. Back to Debate: Last week, we did impromptu debates and I purposefully signed up to oppose him (Does this mean something?) We had a lot of fun actually, and it turned into more of a conversation (Or argument, depending on the way you look at it) I was actually laughing so hard I cried at what they were arguing, and Alex laughed at something I said too, so I guess that’s an accomplishment. Unfortunately, the good times end there. We’re on a two week break now, before starting the Trinity Term (No more debate)… so it’s likely I won’t see him at all. 🙁 |
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2 years, 8 months ago by Roxi_cat7
So, I’m on the squash team with another one of my friends (Lets call her Lucy). She’s very tomboyish, doesn’t care for boys and crushes herself, but is always aware of what’s happening around her. So we’re on the bus to a squash meet, and Lucy and some other guys are playing the Talking Ben game on her phone (like Magic 8 ball) and are asking all sorts of random questions. One guy asks if he should ask a girl out… if so-and-so like him… and then Lucy pipes up “Talking Ben, should Roxi* and Alex date?” (*not my real name) And I’m like, WHAT. I don’t spend a lot of time with Alex, never really talk about him… and hadn’t told ANYONE - especially Lucy - that I might like him. So I’m like… okay? But over the past weeks she’s dropped hints across those lines… and I’m beginning to wonder what she knows. Up until Yesterday I hadn’t told anyone that I might have a crush on him (The drama queen that I spoke about earlier asked, and I guess my blush gave it away) What do I do??? Should I ask Lucy what she knows? She’s decent friends with his group, so maybe he talks to her? |
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2 years, 8 months ago by Roxi_cat7
Oops. That was like a novel 🤪 I haven't spoken to anyone, so I'm a mess. Also, I forgot to mention that he's like a really cold person, not really talkative, so it's not like I could just go up to him. Besides, the only class I was with him for was debate |
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senor
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2 years, 8 months ago by senor
i would probably get to know him better. thinking thag he looks good in a uniform doesn’t mean that you should want to date him. i know people that look good in uniform but i have no desire to like them. personally that’s my stance and since you’re in debate together, that’s an easy class to see what other ppl think and see if he’s someone you wanna get closer w
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2 years, 8 months ago by mrs_jordan
Ask your friend. Although you may find out that he does not like you, you may find out that he does! Heartbreak hurts, but just like anything else, it gets better with time. You will get more confident when it comes to asking boys out and the rejections get easier. It is a lot harder when you are young because of school drama, but it will help you later in life. Try not to sweat it.
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2 years, 8 months ago by Roxi_cat7
@senor and @mrs_jordan thanks for the advice 😊I'm probably moving too fast, rebounding from the first guy after he told me he'd moved on... good idea to wait. We're on March Break for now, so we'll see how I feel in a week. ❤️ |
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2 years, 8 months ago by senor
hope it works out
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2 years, 8 months ago by SpringGirl
Someone want to help me pick my profile pic?
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