How to deal with toxic people
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-Liza-
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2 years, 10 months ago by -Liza-
I'm taking a break from social media soon but how do you deal with toxic people online and irl? Specifically the ones who don't know what the heck they're talking out but act like they do. Do you just stop talking to them over-all or respond nicely? If you respond nicely, how? Could you give me some examples? I think this is making me develop more anger issues and my anxiety doesn't help. Thank you for reading/responding. -Liza |
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nev_m_07
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2 years, 10 months ago by nev_m_07
Hi! I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this. As someone who let myself put up with toxic people for years without saying anything, I understand how hard and painful it can be. The first thing I would say is to not hold in your emotions and to talk to someone about it, whether it be a trusted friend, a parent/guardian, a counselor, or anyone caring enough to listen. If you hold in those emotions, it’ll only make your anxiety worse, so it’s better to just let them out. Plus, talking about it with someone might help you better understand the problem. Next, I would make a list of the people who you know irl who are being toxic to you. If there are random people online who are being toxic and saying dumb, hurtful things, just know that you have no control over them, and that you should block them out of your life by either literally blocking them or by, like you already said, taking a break. Now for the people who you do know: after thinking about your feelings, think about why what they’re saying is making you feel some kind of way. Is it that the words they’re saying are explicitly mean, or could it be that what they’re saying is targeted towards you? If it’s either of those, or both, then you should confront them. If it’s that what they’re saying is mean, but not directly targeting you, maybe fact check them or ego check them in a respectful way. If they’re targeting you, tell them that what they’re saying is not okay and that it’s personally offensive. Sometimes people say stuff without realizing that they’re being mean, and sometimes it’s obvious that they’re intentionally being mean. As silly as this sounds, just try to give them the benefit of the doubt and treat them with respect and kindness so that they will hopefully treat you the with the same respect. Now, if they have a history of being mean, then that’s a different story. Either way, if the behavior continues, you should anonymously report it to your school, as it is bullying/harassment and the responsible parties need to be reprimanded for their behavior. Ik this was long, but I hope it helps. 🙂
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-Liza-
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2 years, 10 months ago by -Liza-
@nev_m_07 I've had to deal with these kind of things before but after that there were just physically toxic people. Now it's really just saying stuff. I can't talk to my parents about it, sadly and one of the only people irl I think I'd feel comfortable to talk about it with has been getting on my nerves lately and we're not talking a lot. But thank you for responding and I'll try to use these strategies soon!
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doogielove
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2 years, 10 months ago by doogielove
I would just stop talking to them overall. If you respond nicely then they will probably just assume you like talking to them. Sorry your going through that.
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doogielove
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2 years, 10 months ago by doogielove
And i mean that for online sorry-
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xc2024
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2 years, 10 months ago by xc2024
i tend to have a short patience and if i’m not ok with how someone talks about other people i call them out on it, but that’s not always the best thing to do, i’d say the situation matters, like if someone’s pretending they know something they don’t, i’d probably be like, “uhh no your wrong, look” and look some stuff up to show them. same with online, i’d send them a link to read. you don’t have to be rude about it, just make it clear you don’t agree or something. like i said, i don’t always make the best decisions when it comes to toxic people, so this may not be the best advice but that’s my opinion and you shouldn’t have to just take without doing something
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nev_m_07
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2 years, 10 months ago by nev_m_07
@-Liza- I’m sorry to hear that. Ik I’m a complete stranger, but if you ever need to rant, I’m here (:
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-Liza-
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2 years, 10 months ago by -Liza-
Thank you for the help everyone!
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crafter83
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2 years, 10 months ago by crafter83
I used to say nice things, but they were still rude so now I just ignore them.
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