HELP!!! (gender and sexuality)
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akanel
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2 years, 10 months ago by akanel
ok i want to go by they/them but i’m really scared to tell people and i want to because i like they/them and also i’m scared to tell people i like girls and i think i’m gay but i’m not sure and my family is VERY homophobic and christian and i can only talk to people from my church because my parents blocked my contacts on my phone to anyone i know from school and we’re on break right now and i’m isolated from everyone and i can’t have social media so help please and also i can’t figure out my gender
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PugCakePop
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2 years, 10 months ago by PugCakePop
hey! I know the struggle. My parents and family are also very religious and homophobic, and honestly the best thing to do is to not tell them. I know this seems wrong because they're you're family and they deserve to know.. but when I told them I was atheist they freaked out and held that against me and it wasn't a good experience. I'm not sure why they've blocked your contacts, but you can always talk to us here! use this time to keep figuring out your gender and sexuality. I know how confusing this period can be so take your time! if you need to talk feel free to pm me 🤎🤍
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crafter83
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2 years, 10 months ago by crafter83
I’m really sorry. I’ve told a lot of people I know about sexuality( all Christians) and the only one who was supportive was a demigirl herself( she uses she/her pronouns btw, so I’m not misgendering). All the rest were like whatever or are annoyed. So unless you know they don’t care, I wouldn’t tell anyone. You only have just over a year to get through. Then they can’t do anything
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crafter83
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2 years, 10 months ago by crafter83
I just call myself female because it’s more accepted. But I really don’t know if I’m a demigirl or female. I’ve just given up on thinking about it, maybe I’ll figure out one day. It’s not wrong though to question for years or to just by they/ them and not worry about it. Do whatever makes you most comfortable. One day you’ll be surrounded by friends who love you for who you are
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sadnymph
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2 years, 10 months ago by sadnymph
i y
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sadnymph
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2 years, 10 months ago by sadnymph
ignore that ^
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sadnymph
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2 years, 10 months ago by sadnymph
i understand that you must be feeling conflicted about this. remember feeling this way is normal, but please don’t tell anyone who will not accept you. it will only hurt you more. i wish you luck with finding out your identity though! feel free to message me anytime if you’re struggling, my messages are always open to all
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Xxpuffish
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2 years, 10 months ago by Xxpuffish
So I’m a lesbian and depending on your school situation and your group of friends you might not get the same result I did but when I told people I used she/they pronouns because I’m a Demi girl they were really awesome about it and started using them interchangeably. My parents block my contacts too it’s so annoying. I stopped being Christian because of the religious trauma I endured about my sexuality so I seriously understand your situation
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xX_dIb_Xx
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2 years, 10 months ago by xX_dIb_Xx
Call me crazy, but maybe lying to your parents may not be the best idea… in my experience, it can backfire pretty hardcore, and make the situation worse.
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xX_dIb_Xx
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2 years, 10 months ago by xX_dIb_Xx
And I’m straight, so I can’t really speak wisdom into what you’re going through, but maybe before making a huge choice about your sexuality, take some time to think about it from a neutral point of view? For example, don’t go into it thinking, “am I straight/ bi/ lesbian” etc, go into it thinking, “who am I?”
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xX_dIb_Xx
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2 years, 10 months ago by xX_dIb_Xx
And obviously, because I am straight, my experience has been different. I’ll also add, I’m a Christian… I know that many Christians can be very rude towards you. I want to apologize for how others handle this topic. Regardless of what conclusion you end up, just know that you are still a good person, and your family should respect you for it.
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