"breaking up" with friend?
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awesomelgk
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2 years, 12 months ago by awesomelgk
Hey, so this is a kinda serious topic. My used to be bff has changed and she's not the person she was when we became best friends. She joined cheerleading this year (and cheerleaders are amazing, don't get me wrong, it's just that this group is a kinda bad group of people) so she started to act more and more like them. I'm already kind of moving on from her but I want to know how to keep it smooth?Thanks, LGK |
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sftball011
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2 years, 12 months ago by sftball011
I would just give subtle hints that you are kinda done with her. Maybe you could hang out with other friends more and then she might hang out with other friends more and eventually you just won’t hang out anymore. I would advise against straight out telling her that you don’t want to be friends because then she might get mad and then there would be lots of drama. If she asks why your not spending much time with her just say you’ve been busy with something. A.k.a a sport, church,etc
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awesomelgk
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2 years, 12 months ago by awesomelgk
@sftball011 ok tysm!
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senor
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2 years, 12 months ago by senor
ive had this happen, and really, i’ve tried to drop hints about it to him, but sometimes, i think when you’ve been really good friends w someone, they judt think you’re messing around. id say drop hints at first, and the biggest one could be the silent treatment. and if you can find a point where it’ll be good to tell her you don’t want to be friends w her, tell her straight out. just be aware that if you say it point blank, they might not take it well and might start insulting you. just stay calm and stick to your decision. tell them why you don’t want to be friends anymore just very calmly. don’t insult them back because then that makes you as worse as them. hope this helps.
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awesomelgk
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2 years, 12 months ago by awesomelgk
Ok, tysm @senor
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Godluvsu
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2 years, 12 months ago by Godluvsu
i wouldn't try silent treatment. This can make people feel alone and its not being straight up and honest- its not very kind either. Imagine thinking someones your best friend, but then they start ignoring you, and its not because you were rude to them or anything.Maybe just try to reduce it to a acquaintance rather than friend? Just slowly drift apart I guess. Stop going to eachothers house, walk with other friends down the hall, etc, but don't just ignore her because thats not really the kind thing to do. Just slowly remove yourself from a close friendship. I have had to do that when I decided I didn't want someone to be an influence in my life- her decisions weren't the best and while I wasn't gonna turn our friendship into being enemys, I didn't feel like it was best to have her in my inner circle, because you become who you hang with and I had already seen the signs of that. anyways thats my perspective good luck with this tricky situation ❤️ |
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xc2024
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2 years, 12 months ago by xc2024
If she’s acting more like them, she’s probably getting closer to them then she is to you anyway. In my experience giving you and your friend time to grow apart typically works, you’ll just naturally grow apart, good luck
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Zaan_13
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2 years, 12 months ago by Zaan_13
I agree w @xc2024, the smoothest way to let her go is to just let y'all drift apart, I've been in that same position as you and eventually the other person will stop trying, as much as it sucks. Sorry you're losing such a close friend but if she's becoming less pleasant then it's for the best 💕
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Cece_b
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2 years, 12 months ago by Cece_b
Hello I'm so sorry that this happened to you, I know exactly how you feel cause my ex bff did this to me too 🙁
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awesomelgk
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2 years, 12 months ago by awesomelgk
Thanks so much @Godluvsu @xc2024 @Zaan_13 and @Cece_b ! I think I'll just try slowly drifting. She just is not the kind of person I want to be around anymore so it's for the best to drift.
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senor
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2 years, 12 months ago by senor
@Godluvsu sorry! thanks for correcting me with the silent treatment. i didn’t mean like straight up ignore her, but yeah, drifting is a better word.
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Godluvsu
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2 years, 12 months ago by Godluvsu
@senor yeah! i get what you are saying 😄 anyways im sure in some situations that would work best i was just speaking from my experiences
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Xxpuffish
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2 years, 11 months ago by Xxpuffish
Just distance yourself she obviously has her social priorities which isn’t bad it just sucks to be in the middle of it and feel helpless when they’re drifting away I would just keep putting distance without being negative
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