i need a little…. advice
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nev_m_07
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3 years, 4 months ago by nev_m_07
So there’s this boy who I had a crush on towards the end of elementary school, and one of my good friends also had a crush on him. To avoid conflict, we decided that we would both not confess our feelings towards him, and I just started telling myself that I was over the crush, even though I wasn’t. Now, at my high school orientation, I just saw that boy, and it’s like all of those feelings came flooding back. I want to get to know him better again to see if maybe he has feelings for me too, but i think it might be kind of awkward since we haven’t seen each other in like three years. But like, it’s weird cuz i saw him staring at me, and we kept making eye contact with each other and then looking away….. it was awkward. Also, remember the girl I said also had a crush on him? Yeah well she’s also going to the same school too. And we haven’t seen each other, or the boy we both liked in three years, and I’m kinda hoping she doesn’t have feelings for him anymore because I don’t want it to be awkward. Me and the boy I have a crush on have some… history… if that’s what you want to call it, but I’m worried that the time we spent apart at different middle schools kind of ruined our “friendship.” What should I do?
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crafter83
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3 years, 4 months ago by crafter83
I’d just be friends for now. Like try to get to know him as a friend, then see what happens
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nev_m_07
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3 years, 4 months ago by nev_m_07
@crafter83 || yeah I think that’s a good idea. We were pretty good friends before, but like I said, we haven’t spoken in like 3 years. I should probably get to know him better to see if I still even really like him.
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ale66
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3 years, 4 months ago by ale66
Honestly i think it would be pretty crazy if your friend also still liked him.. so much time has passed so im sure if they havent seen each other in that long she probably doesnt like him anymore. You shouldnt jump right in to trying to get with him, bc you havent talked in a while, but it is a good sign that you made eye contact so much. You should say hi and start a friendly conversation and just see where that takes you! But dont get hung up over the crush - try to push those feelings down for a while until you develop more of a relationship. Being friends isnt a bad thing and it can always lead to something more. But yeah since so much time has passed youre probably much different people now so i would advise you to take it slow and see what happens! Good luck! And if you ever need more advice hmu🙂
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Nanna_Ozzy
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3 years, 4 months ago by Nanna_Ozzy
Honestly I would just be friends for a little while. Then you can get a feel for if you still like each other.
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crafter83
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3 years, 4 months ago by crafter83
Yeah, people change over time
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bsoftball
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3 years, 4 months ago by bsoftball
I mean you were brave enough to talk to him the first time you met him, why not try talking to him again? If you don’t feel comfortable talking to him maybe just send him an email or something asking to hangout. Good luck!
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nev_m_07
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3 years, 4 months ago by nev_m_07
@ale66 || @Nanna_Ozzy || @bsoftball || yeah I’m kind of hoping we have the same lunch so that we can talk to each other more, or at least a few classes together. I think it’s kind of awkward between us right now, since we never really confessed our feelings for each other, despite knowing they were there. I don’t want to address it, since it’s a thing of the past, but I also don’t want to ignore it because now I’m kind of getting a second (and more realistic) chance with him.
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ale66
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3 years, 4 months ago by ale66
Yeah i would leave out your feelings when talking to him but definitely try to get closer!
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