break up with my bf (NEED HELP)
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madison737
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3 years, 5 months ago by madison737
I wanna break up with my bf Bc I feel like he’s super controlling and just gets super jealous of me and some of my other guy friends that I’m super close with. Idk if I should break up or not but I just don’t think I’m happy with him anymore and I don’t feel right dating him if I’m not sure I like him. Also he just gets mad at me for hanging out with other guys at my school (me and him don’t go to the same school) but it’s like I have been friends with some of these people for years. What should I say? I really need help! But I feel bad breaking up with him Bc his mom passed away a year ago and he might use that as a reason and make me feel bad abt myself! Please help me on what I should do😭
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madison737
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3 years, 5 months ago by madison737
To clear it up me and my bf go to the same school but my friends who r guys some don’t. Sorry when I worded it I put him i meant my other friends
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Maky_Wacky
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3 years, 5 months ago by Maky_Wacky
You should probably just break up with him especially if u don’t like him anymore, yes he might guilt-trip you about his mom and stuff but if u don’t like him, u shouldn’t lead him on.
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madison737
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3 years, 5 months ago by madison737
@Maky_Wacky your right tho, I shouldn’t lead him on. I wish I could insert photos and stuff but he asked a couple days ago if I still liked him Bc he thought I was losing feelings and I said yea sorta and he goes oh of course you are but you won’t care if you hurt me and just saying stuff like he was gonna hurt himself if I did and I’m just scared idk. It’s super toxic tho and I wanna get out of it I’m just scared of what happens if I do
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ChaosZone
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3 years, 5 months ago by ChaosZone
Could you consult a adult or parent maybe? Or even just another person?
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madison737
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3 years, 5 months ago by madison737
@ChaosZone I mean I could ask my friend? Me and her are super close and she knows I wanna break up with him but she doesn’t know what to do. And I could ask my parents I just don’t want them to take it out of proportion
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Elise64
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3 years, 5 months ago by Elise64
His mom dying doesn’t give him the right to treat you like this and guilt you into staying with him, I think that you should break up.
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rumpleknot
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3 years, 5 months ago by rumpleknot
i agree with @ChaosZone as well. but also trust your gut or instinct. i was kinda in the same boat a year ago, but i just waited it out till he broke up with me like a day or two later (i think the timing just ended up working)
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catgoddess
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3 years, 5 months ago by catgoddess
Do you have someone else to talk to? Like a therapist? It might help to talk to someone who's out of the loop.
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catgoddess
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3 years, 5 months ago by catgoddess
Also, maybe try talking to him abt how controlling he is, he doesn't own you.
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Caramel04
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3 years, 5 months ago by Caramel04
If you haven't had a conversation with your bf about how you feel, I think that's a good first step. (If you don't even feel comfortable telling him you feel uncomfortable with how his behavior makes you feel that's a huge red flag). Obviously, I've never met either of you, so I have no idea what his side of the story is or how your relationship is going, but from what you've said, he doesn't like you hanging out with friends which is not ok. Platonic relationships are extremely important, and relying solely on a romantic partner for emotional support is not healthy. Friendships matter too, especially if you've been close for a while. If you try to have a conversation about it and he tells you he doesn't like you hanging with friends because he thinks that you'll leave him for them, you've got a really big trust issue going on in your relationship and you might want to take a deeper look and see if he's controlling any other aspects of your life or if there are any solutions you can talk through together. In the end, you are not obligated to stay with him out of pity and you can (and 9 times out of 10 *should*) put your needs first. Relationships should be a team effort 🙂
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