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Vivi07
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3 years, 5 months ago by Vivi07
@WARNING this is long, please read on though because i jeed help 🙂So basically, I’m in a sticky situation, and I need some help. I know this person, we’ll call her Ella. Ella and I have known each other for nearly 10 years. Our friendship was great until year 5. In year 5, she started getting really possessive and controlling, and made it hard for me to have other friends apart from her (like she never ever left me alone). It was really annoying and I kept trying to drift away from Ella, but it didn’t work. Then in year 6, i started to hang out with more people apart from her, though she was still my main friend. Then Ella started bullying me, and it got to the point where even the teacher knew what was happening and I was genuinely terrified of Ella. I told my parents everything, and long story short, the situation got sorted. She continued to be toxic and low-scale picked on me, like for about a month she was trying to get me together with all of the boys in my class, all of whom i was friends with and it made the situation really awkward for me and the boys. My teacher found out about this again and had a long chat with Ella. That stopped, but my friendship with those guys has never been the same again. Then during the summer holidays i broke off all contact with her. My parents supported this decision as they knew what Ella was like, and agreed that I should try and get other friends and stuff. Then we started year 7. Ella still claimed that we were best friends.I got bullied by some other girls, and the people who stood by me were near strangers from my new secondary school. Ella just stood by and let everything happen, and didn’t stick up for me at all. These new people were the people who I’m now friends with. I managed to mostly avoid Ella for year 7, as most of it was the lockdown. Then year 8 started and she kept coming back to me and bullying my friends. I stuck up for them like she didn’t for me. I was still careful around her. I managed to get into no serious fight with her. Then she changed. I thought she was nice again. During the mini lockdown, we even met up a cpuple times, to catch up, as she had changed a lot. The when we went back after the lockdown, Ella started trying to work her way into multiple groups, my group included. She was really rude and pushy, not at all like she was when i walked with her during the lockdown. Then she started being really toxic to the groups she tried to join. Now I’ve got 4 weeks left of year 8. Two weeks ago she started attention seeking really bad, like walking out the classroom whenever she wanted, and starting to cry whenever she didn’t get what she wanted. Then she was absolutely horrid to me and my group and said some things to me, which i won’t repeat. She then got two of her friends who came and yelled at me and my group and then i ran off fuming before they could finish. One of my friends came. The other two took the storm for me, snd I’m so grateful for them. I feel bad that they had to face that though ): That afternoon i had to sit out my lesson because i was crying so bad and she sat right behind me in class, so I couldn’t go back in. My group sat with me for that lesson outside the class and held me until i was no longer in hysterics. I’m sooo grateful for them. Then Ella has continued to be horrid. The girl i sit next to (we’ll call her Liv) have sprung up a really nice little friendship the past 6 months, and Ella was quite horrible to us. You see, Ella wants to be like Liv, because Liv is just one of those people with a great character, can be friends woth anyone, and I think Ella wants that, And i think is jealous of the way me and Liv have become friends. Ella keeps butting into all the conversations me and Liv and my other friends have, and just being really rude. So now, here is where I ask for advice. Ella has invited me to her birthday party, and I really don’t like her st all, and I dont know why she invited me because it seems that she doesn’t like me either. I dont know what to tell her. And has anyone got any advice on how to deal with ella day to day? She’s a really difficult person to work alongside and I find it really hard. I’m so sorry for my long rant but I needed to get this out, and BraceletBook is such a kind community and I didn’t really want to ask to many people irl as it gets really awkward then. Thanks, and have a great day! ❤️ |
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MEARA
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3 years, 5 months ago by MEARA
I’m so sorry. Next time she does anything rude to you just say BACK OFF. I’ve had enough ☹︎. it might scare her off and she probably will leave you alone. I hope this helped .💕
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Vivi07
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3 years, 5 months ago by Vivi07
@MEARA thank you! Thats really helpful I’ll definitely try it!
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spacebella
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3 years, 5 months ago by spacebella
omfg i am soooo srry for what this girl did to u!!!! ive been in a few situations like these but they have only lasted for about a year or two at a time. honestly i would NOT go to that party. unless you have a plan to destroy it to get back at her but i think from what i read that ur a very nice person and wouldnt do that lol. anyways, since its her bday she will have all of her 'friends' there so they might do something to u, especially if her parents arent there to stop her. soo yea 🙂 i hope this helped ❤️ ❤️
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sadnymph
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3 years, 5 months ago by sadnymph
i don’t think you should go to her birthday party because i think she’s going to try to be nice to you and win your friendship back and then stamp all over it
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Vivi07
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3 years, 5 months ago by Vivi07
@spacebella @sadnymph thanks you guys! Thats really good advice from you both, theres a v small chance I’m going to this party which is great 😌 thanks again 💕
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stasia
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3 years, 5 months ago by stasia
Girl. I am so sorry that you have an Ella in your life. What you do is AVOID her. Don’t text with her anymore. Don’t talk to her in school at all. Whenever she approaches you, walk away. When she gets a response from you like this, she may be more likely to stop. Hope this helps! Sending love. ❤️❤️
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GenMalucci
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3 years, 5 months ago by GenMalucci
Don’t go to the party. You would be putting yourself on the line for more bullying. Try to stay with your new group. They seem like amazing people who are there to support you. Ella is probably looking for a reaction when she bullies you. Try to keep a straight face and STAY CALM. You got this!
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spacebella
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3 years, 5 months ago by spacebella
@Vivi07 aww ur welcome and good luck! 😊
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Vivi07
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3 years, 5 months ago by Vivi07
@stasia Thank you! Thats great advice (:
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IguanaGreg
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3 years, 5 months ago by IguanaGreg
try your best not to be like ella just show in a not terribal way she cant contral or bully you oh and does she have a hard home life
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Vivi07
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3 years, 5 months ago by Vivi07
@GenMalucci Thanks!
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Vivi07
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3 years, 5 months ago by Vivi07
@IguanaGreg no, she doesn’t have a hard life at home, but she sometimes struggles with being the younger child, like she struggles when her older brother is allowed to do things that she cant (but he is 4 years older than her), and I don’t think she understands that she isn’t the same age as her brother, and needs to have some boundaries where he doesn’t. That struggle may be a contributing factor to her controlling behaviour.
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IguanaGreg
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3 years, 5 months ago by IguanaGreg
yeah i try to help ppl but im not the best at advice
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IguanaGreg
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3 years, 5 months ago by IguanaGreg
i mean go to the party if she steps outta line nvr have anything todo with her AGAIN
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Vivi07
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3 years, 5 months ago by Vivi07
@IguanaGreg its ok! You give good advice, it just might not have as many layers to it as others do (: I’m still undecided about the party, as some of my group will be there, but some people i really dont like will also be there ):
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IguanaGreg
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3 years, 5 months ago by IguanaGreg
yes i get that im homeschooled so i dont deal with tjis stuff sorry for not helping
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Yellowfang
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3 years, 5 months ago by Yellowfang
Pintrest 😏 has lots of baddie comebacks. And just STAY AWAY FROM HER!!!!!!! She is...." u know 😒
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GenMalucci
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3 years, 5 months ago by GenMalucci
Wait. You might want to go if some of your group is going. There was a time that I got invited to something and my group was going, but because I had some serious issues with the person who hosted, I didn’t go and it turned out badly. I didn’t have any friends after that party ended
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Annie_Whe
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3 years, 5 months ago by Annie_Whe
I hope that your situation gets better! We all have someone like Ella in our life and I am wishing you the best. I would try to create distance with Ella but if that doesnt work just be direct.
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