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audreyt293
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3 years, 8 months ago by audreyt293
So my best guy friend told me he had a crush on me a couple weeks ago and now our friendship is super awkward. He has talked to me since he told me, but he barely talks to me, he's always in his Google Meet with the same exact person every day for hours at a time, and he never invites me to hang out with him in his Meet. I mean yes, of course he is allowed to hang out with his other friends (I'm actually the "outsider" of his friend group cause I never talk to any of his other friends and I am the one who knows the least about him) but he never invites me to hang out anymore. He has also been playing some sort of Roblox game with everyone else lately and I don't have Roblox so I'm never included in that. I've asked him twice if we were still friends, and both times he said yes, but if we were still friends I would think he would talk to me more and stuff. I would appreciate any advice people have cause I just don't know what to do!
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audreyt293
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3 years, 8 months ago by audreyt293
just bumping this up
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fcb_neymar
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3 years, 8 months ago by fcb_neymar
maybe it a bit awkward for him too, especially if you didn't feel the same way about him ( which btw if you don't fell the same way don't force to like him or something just so he would talk to you) maybe just give him some time and if that doesn't work try talking to him and tell him that you still want to be friends and don't want to ruin your friendshiphope this helped, good luck! ❤️ |
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audreyt293
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3 years, 8 months ago by audreyt293
@fcb_neymar thank you so much for your advice! the only thing is I've already talked to him about it, I said that this whole situation was kind of awkward for me but I don't want it to ruin our friendship. He didn't really say anything but some mhm's and yeah's. He also said that he couldn't hear anything I said the first time I talked cause I was super quiet so I had to say it all again. It was even more awkward because the friend that is always in his meet that I mentioned in the first post was in the meet when I talked to him, but the friend just wasn't at his computer to hear me talking
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fcb_neymar
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3 years, 8 months ago by fcb_neymar
maybe try talking to his friends to see if there is something that is bothering him that he didn't tell you but if you aren't that close to them, if there is any of your friend that knows the friendship between you too, maybe they would be able to give you much better advice that me haha
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kmmorell
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3 years, 8 months ago by kmmorell
@audreyt293 why is everything on here so relatable... ANYWHOSo if I'm understanding this correctly... he said he likes you, you guys r friends, you don't like him the same way and you feel like it would just be better if you were friends.... ok. so pretty much... he took a big leap of faith, and went splat on the ground, which is totally fine. You have the right to say no, and he needs to put on his big boy pants. XD. anywho. I can tell you that they might be feeling a little embarrased and it's "shattered" his ego or something. Getting "rejected" kinda gets you second guessing, and he still might like you, but because you arent interested maybe he's trying to distance himself and trying to just think of you as a friend more? Maybe since you used to hang out a lot it was because he liked you, but now that you said no he thinks he should back up a few steps.... id say just act normal, still talk, because you still want that Friendship and i bet it means a lot to you. You can engage him in conversation, but also read his body language and his interest. |
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kmmorell
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3 years, 8 months ago by kmmorell
and unless you know his friends realllyyyy extremely well... don't go talking to them... that just makes drama and crap. I can't say that boys won't be talking about girls with eachother, but most likely, they don't know and it'll just confuse you even more.
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rayasun
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3 years, 8 months ago by rayasun
ok so this exact same thing happened to me, and the guy shut down when i told him i didn't like him back. basically what i did was just keep texting him and refuse to let him ignore me. Eventually when he started texting me again i told him that he never talked to me at school anymore, and now we're good friends again and talk all the time. So maybe you could do something like that? My advice is to not give up on him and also show that you dont care if he likes you (not in a mean way), you wont let that ruin the friendship. I would not make a big deal out of it, dont always bring up that he likes you and you shut him down. Try showing him that you want to be his friend still without saying "hey, we can still be friends tho" because that line sounds so fake and he might think youre just trying to be polite. He might also just need some time to get over himself, its hard to put yourself out there and hes probably pretty embarrassed.
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audreyt293
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3 years, 8 months ago by audreyt293
@kmmorell @rayasun thank you both so much for your advice! I sort of talked to him today but not about anything related to 'the situation' (also he was busy most of the afternoon). I plan to talk to him tomorrow hopefully, if I don't chicken out cause that's what I tend to do while talking to him
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