how to make friends when you're shy
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Fliparz
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9 years, 2 months ago by Fliparz
Ok first off, I'm not retarded or anything, no offense to anyone I just don't have a better way to say this. Ok so anyway, I'm really shy in person and I'm not that good at making friends. When I was in preschool through 3rd grade I was too shy to talk to ANYONE. I finally started getting out of my shell when I was around fourth grade. So I'm still kind of shy and not all outgoing and loud and stuff, so how can I make friends? I have some friends already so I'm not a loner or anything.😛. So how can I make friends if I'm really shy and have nothing to say to the other person? That's another big problem I have with making friends, I don't know what to talk about with new people. Any advice?
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Fliparz
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9 years, 2 months ago by Fliparz
And another thing is that people approach me sometimes but I have nothing to say. Any advice, please?
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Rensje
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9 years, 2 months ago by Rensje
Well here comes some dutch advise: If you're shy and want to make friends, you only have to join your classmates during lunch. You don't have to say anything, but then you're not directly forst to start or join a conversation. If someone is approaching you and want to start a conversation or you want to start a conversation, just talk abouy completly random or start to give your oppinion. But starting a conversation is maybe difficult when you're shy, but only joining your classmates or other people during lunch will probably help, but making friends takes some time. But this is dutch advise! I don't know if this also will work in other countries when you're shy.
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Rensje
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9 years, 2 months ago by Rensje
Making friends when you're shy is always hard
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Mermaid12
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9 years, 2 months ago by Mermaid12
I'm not shy at all lol. When I first started high school I loved the opportunity to make new friends!!! Most of the friends I have now are from me going up to random people and starting a conversation with them. Sure, it doesn't always work out and some people can be pretty rude, but don't let them get you down! 😉 I always like to start a conversation with a smile, then I introduce myself. After they introduce themselves it's time to start a conversation! You can break the ice by telling a joke, or you can just jump right in! I find the best way to start a conversation is by asking a question (for example: "I'm new here, what is your opinion on the cafeteria food?") you can ask them about hobbies, their favourite things, sports they like, and even ask if they want to hang out with you at lunchtime 😉 I hope this helps!!! 🙂
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megani
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9 years, 2 months ago by megani
I'm really shy with new people but with my friends and family and people who I already know I'm not a bit shy around them. It was really hard for me to make friends and next year I have to make more because high school and I don't know how and its a bit hard for me to go up to someone and say I'm new do u know any other way PLEASE
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lilyp101
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9 years, 2 months ago by lilyp101
Try joining a club that has the same interest as you 🙂 good luck!
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Taro101
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9 years, 2 months ago by Taro101
I am really shy too. But I make friends by sitting with people at lunch and I always look for people that seem to be lonely. Just sit there and kind of stick around with them and talk a little with them but if they ditch you just try again with a different group.
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Fliparz
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9 years, 2 months ago by Fliparz
Thanks for the advice everyone!
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Fliparz
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9 years, 2 months ago by Fliparz
But what do you talk about and how? Like do u just say randomly what's ur favorite movie? Or do u say I like this movie do you?
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Lily99
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9 years, 2 months ago by Lily99
I say start by giving them a compliment. This is especially useful if they're carrying an art project or wearing something they made. That way you can ask them about it and talk about the project. Or if they're wearing a shirt from a tourist spot, with the name of a city or attraction on it, ask about the trip. Most people love to talk about themselves, and that gives you time to get comfortable and be able to share something about yourself. Also this was said earlier but is worth repeating, look for the shy people or those who seem like they need friends, maybe someone who's new to your school. Also if you have a few friends, and you're happy with that, don't worry about more. Some people like to have tons of friends, others are happier with just a few.
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Fliparz
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9 years, 2 months ago by Fliparz
Thanks everyone! This is great advice, I might try these ideas out tomorrow.
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